Is it really in your best interest to post intimate photos of your ex—or of yourself?
I’ve heard this question asked recently: “How can I get my ex to stop posting nude photos of themselves with their new love interest on social media? They are hurtful to me, and the children may eventually see them.”
This is a kind of flipside to so-called “revenge porn,” in which one former partner reacts to a bitter break-up by posting nude photos of their ex on social media—photos that presumably are intended to anger and/or humiliate them. For example, an estranged wife appears to be basking in the glow of a new relationship—and letting the world, and her ex, see how happy she is. “I will survive—and I will rub it in your face.”
If you’ve taken a break from your career to raise children, you should assess your prospects before the divorce is final.
After settling her divorce with another law firm, a new client came to me with custody and support issues that arose afterward. Trained as a registered nurse, she had not worked since the early ’90s, when she got married and started raising children as a stay-at-home mom, comfortable in the security of her husband’s income.
Children grow up, their needs and schedules evolve – and custody arrangements should evolve accordingly
In one family whose custody case I worked on, an elementary-school child grew up to be a middle-school child, and the parenting schedules in the original agreement didn’t work any more. For one thing, the young teen’s newly complex sports schedule no longer fit the joint-custody arrangement the parents had hashed out two years earlier. And a burgeoning social life turned the old pick-up-and-drop-off routines upside down.